FAQ

Frequently Asked Questions

What is a Mentor?

A mentor is a friend, guide, and advisor who can teach life skills, open doors of opportunity, show a person their blind spots — the things about you that you can’t see. A mentor can correct when needed. Mentoring is God’s design. People can’t grow spiritually as God intends without proper input from others.

Why Do I Need A Mentor?

Because life is hard, and everyone can use some help. Everyone needs advice. And everyone needs advice from people they trust. Mentors can provide encouragement, inspiration, motivation, guidance and practical advice on everything from career choices to relationships. A mentor can help to guide you in your faith, walking with you to become the person God created you to be. Mentors participate with AMentor4Me.com to help other people become who God created them to be. See the videos on this website of the impact that mentors have had on others just like you.

How Do I Find A Mentor On This Site?

Just fill out the profile and AMentor4Me will list the available mentors in your area. It’s up to you to reach out and connect with those that interest you.

Why Do I Have To Fill Out This Information?

Because the mentors who have taken the time and effort to make themselves available are serious about impacting lives. Just like you want to know something about them in order to determine if you might connect with them, they want to know something about you.

Am I Under Any Obligation?

No. There is no obligation to participate or follow through with any potential connection you may make through this website. AMentor4Me.com is a free service that exists to facilitate spiritual formation, encouragement and Biblical discipleship. Your growth and maturity is the goal. You are free to participate as much or as little as you want.

What Are The Biblical Instructions/Guidelines To Be A Mentor?

• One who leads others must live by example (I Peter 5:1-3)
• Must be an encourager (Hebrews 10:24-25)
• Must point people to God’s word, which is the guide. Everything flows from that. (II Tim 3:16-17)
• There is wisdom in collective collaboration. Yours isn’t the only voice that matters in someone’s life. God will use you in concert with other voices to guide as He directs. (Prov. 15:22)
• God will honor your sincere efforts (James 1:5)

What Are The Values And Practices That Should Be Encouraged In Mentoring?

Flexibility: There is no one fixed manner or method to mentor someone. Relationships develop as participants are comfortable moving forward. Not every attempt at forming a mentoring relationship will be successful. It may take several attempts (with different mentees) to click or bond.
‍Entrepreneurship: Mentoring relationships take on the characteristics of their participants. Meeting formats vary. Some mentors may want to meet one-on-one, while some may want to meet in groups. One mentor with a high public profile indicated that he meets monthly with a group of 20 students in a university cafeteria. From that monthly meeting, he sees specific mentoring opportunities emerge. Each mentor should be able to tailor their activity to meet their schedule and those of their mentees.
‍Respect for each person’s journey: Everyone starts out at a different place. Mentors should respect where people are in their spiritual journey. A mentor should deal with people where they are – not where he expects them to be.
‍Freedom to fail: Not every attempt to develop a mentoring relationship will be successful. The Holy Spirit may direct a mentee toward another mentor in the program, or He may direct the mentee away from the program entirely. It is critical to recognize the Holy Spirit’s sovereignty in this area.
‍Patience: A mentor shouldn’t try to force anything upon a relationship. Let relationships develop naturally. Through discernment, a mentor should know whether he should invest time into a particular relationship.
‍Authenticity: Relationships must be authentic to be impactful. No one can relate to everyone. Some people just don’t connect well with others. There is nothing wrong with deciding not to move forward toward a particular mentoring relationship.
‍Be Led by the Holy Spirit: Listen to the Holy Spirit for guidance and direction. The Lord may direct one person to a mentor for a long season, or for a short season for a particular reason. The Lord may direct you away from a particular mentee for a reason that you may not be aware of. Listen to the Holy Spirit’s leading.
‍Community: Both mentors and mentees can glean much from being a part of the community of believers online, the resources offered on the site, and from the online interaction with others on the site. So share your stories. It will help and encourage others!